“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”
When was the last time you complimented someone on what she was wearing, how beautiful her hair looked, how pretty her eyes are, how funny she was, etc. Probably yesterday or at least a week ago. Without even knowing, we compliment other people so many times yet, when was the last time you complimented yourself? Now don’t get my wrong, saying nice things to others is totally acceptable and as a matter of fact, it’s a great thing to do, but just as this applies to others, it also applies to yourself. How do you feel when someone tells you how good you look today? As of for me, my day gets better, I suddenly become much more confident. Well complimenting yourself causes the same effects and the good thing is, you can do it as many times as you like.
This is what many people, including me, like to call speaking kindly to yourself. Get out there and look at yourself at the mirror and say something good about you. It could be either how great you look or feel, how great the clothes suit you, or simply an I love you. Try to speak kindly to others and yourself. Don’t ever forget that. It is proven that a compliment a day makes you happier so do it and trust me, you will feel better and it will soon become a routine. It will make you physiologically more comfortable with who you are, and this is because someone loves you, and that someone is YOU.
I will share with you a little lesson that i learned a couple of years ago while playing basketball. Basketball was my passion, my 24/7 sport and dedication. It was my all, however, on a ski trip with my family, I misfortunately broke my leg. I had to go through a long stage of rehabilitation because I didn’t just break my leg, but literally ruined it. Rehab was hard and annoying yet I had the support from my family and friends, which still didn’t make me feel 100% better. I knew something was missing to make me feel better, yet little did I know that it was the support from myself. As I realized this, I began to talk to myself in a kind manner and I literally began to feel better. I would say stuff like “Don’t give up, you can do this,” and this would totally lift me up and inspire me to keep working hard on this painful process. I really missed basketball and I wanted to start playing right away. That was kind of impossible, after my 4 months of rehab, I was totally out of shape. Every time I would pick up the ball and things wouldn’t turnout the way it all used to be, just like making my shots, I would get frustrated and desperate with myself. It was after some weeks that I remembered what had helped me in the hospital and along the process, it was my self support and my kind words I would share to myself. Since then, I began praising my actions and efforts and whenever I feel, tripped, or stumbled, I would repeat to myself “You are strong, you are better than this. I love you.” Words of support are the best, especially if it’s you who is telling yourself.
From now on, focus and telling others and yourself positive words of kindness and tell yourself that you love you as much as you can. I hope this works and remember, love who you are as a person and it will al get better from there. And of course I understand how hard it must be to take a compliment coming from yourself but try it and see how you feel. I am sure it will definitely help you and you will love it!