Speak Kindly To Yourself

“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”

When was the last time you complimented someone on what she was wearing, how beautiful her hair looked, how pretty her eyes are, how funny she was, etc. Probably yesterday or at least a week ago. Without even knowing, we compliment other people so many times yet, when was the last time you complimented yourself? Now don’t get my wrong, saying nice things to others is totally acceptable and as a matter of fact, it’s a great thing to do, but just as this applies to others, it also applies to yourself. How do you feel when someone tells you how good you look today? As of for me, my day gets better, I suddenly become much more confident. Well complimenting yourself causes the same effects and the good thing is, you can do it as many times as you like.

This is what many people, including me, like to call speaking kindly to yourself. Get out there and look at yourself at the mirror and say something good about you. It could be either how great you look or feel, how great the clothes suit you, or simply an I love you. Try to speak kindly to others and yourself. Don’t ever forget that. It is proven that a compliment a day makes you happier so do it and trust me, you will feel better and it will soon become a routine. It will make you physiologically more comfortable with who you are, and this is because someone loves you, and that someone is YOU.

I will share with you a little lesson that i learned a couple of years ago while playing basketball. Basketball was my passion, my 24/7 sport and dedication. It was my all, however, on a ski trip with my family, I misfortunately broke my leg. I had to go through a long stage of rehabilitation because I didn’t just break my leg, but literally ruined it. Rehab was hard and annoying yet I had the support from my family and friends, which still didn’t make me feel 100% better. I knew something was missing to make me feel better, yet little did I know that it was the support from myself. As I realized this, I began to talk to myself in a kind manner and I literally began to feel better. I would say stuff like “Don’t give up, you can do this,” and this would totally lift me up and inspire me to keep working hard on this painful process. I really missed basketball and I wanted to start playing right away. That was kind of impossible, after my 4 months of rehab, I was totally out of shape. Every time I would pick up the ball and things wouldn’t turnout the way it all used to be, just like making my shots, I would get frustrated and desperate with myself. It was after some weeks that I remembered what had helped me in the hospital and along the process, it was my self support and my kind words I would share to myself. Since then, I began praising my actions and efforts and whenever I feel, tripped, or stumbled, I would repeat to myself “You are strong, you are better than this. I love you.” Words of support are the best, especially if it’s you who is telling yourself.

From now on, focus and telling others and yourself positive words of kindness and tell yourself that you love you as much as you can. I hope this works and remember, love who you are as a person and it will al get better from there. And of course I understand how hard it must be to take a compliment coming from yourself but try it and see how you feel. I am sure it will definitely help you and you will love it!

The SCALE Does NOT Make You Beautiful

Throughout the past couple of years there’s been many girls, my age, who have become obsessed with their weight and the SCALE. I write the “SCALE” with capital letters because it’s dangerous and it’s numbers can get into your head. It is healthy to weigh yourself once a couple of weeks in order to see how you are doing or maybe if you are trying to loose weight in a healthy way however, by SCALE I mean using it daily or weekly because you are obsessed with your weight and its numbers.

Do girls really do that? Well, yes! Yet what they don’t know is that the scale doesn’t call you beautiful. Weight and beauty are two different things and do not go together. You need to be conscious that numbers don’t label or define who you are, not even pounds!

In the long run, obsessing yourself with the numbers lead to troubles with your self-esteem and confidence. There’s a story about a sixth grade girl who was obsessed with stepping onto the scale every single morning. She had her goal, she wanted to loose all her baby fat in order to be accepted by society. As if pounds define who you are as a person.. Well not really!

Story is, she became much more obsessed until one day her mother gor really concerned and took her to a phsyciatrist in order for her to be helped. After her session she decided that the scale would not define how much she was worth, how beautiful she was and even lower her confidence! SHE WOULD. By the end of the story, the girl was able to make tons of friends and she said that it’s through not pressuring and labeling yourself about your weight and other things when you can truly find peace with yourself, your body and thus be confident about who you are when you can be the best you can be. It was because of her confidence as well as her self-esteem that she was able to have friends. This proves that the obsession with the scale is not healthy and will only tear you down, you need to be smarter than that and learn that it’s what you think and make of yourself that counts. It you and what you think about yourself that makes you beautiful. Don’t let number define who you are.

Be sure that next time that you step onto the scale you are able to look beyond those numbers and see the hidden message:

 

Confidence

I don’t know about you, but at least I believe that people with self-confidence are way cooler and much more fun to be with it. Why? Well it’s simple… They are basically comfortable with who they are as persons. Self-confidence is extremely important in many aspects of our lives however, sometimes it is hard to find it. Yet it is extremely important that we learn how to build it because aside from it being an important aspect of our lives, confidence also shows who we are and what we think of ourselves.

If you think you don’t have enough self-confidence start by telling yourself that you are worth it and that you matter! Trust me, once you feel good and confident about yourself you will start pushing yourself further from your limits and you will literally love yourself! We are not born with confidence, yet we need to build it and continue developing it. This will give you pride about who you are and will make you much more beautiful both internally and externally.

Some tips for building self-confidence..

  • Know yourself and be comfortable with it.
  • Take responsibility for yourself. Only you can make things happen in your life.
  • Try something new and discover what you are capable of.
  • Know your strengths.
  • Compliment yourself.
  • Dress well and be comfortable with it.

It is really important that you think positively about yourself. I have a friend who used to tell me that what you think of yourself is what others see. Whatever you think you are is basically written in your skin. So you basically decide what you want others to think of you. Well this is true! Though not literally, what you think of yourself as an individual is what others see. So remember to always compliment and believe in yourself! You deserve to have self-confidence because YOU are worth it and nobody can take that away from you!

“Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”

E.E. Cummings