“Just be yourself. Everybody else is already taken.”
The quote may sound cheesy yet if you think about it, it is a great way of saying the obvious: Be who YOU are. The purpose of this post is not to persuade you to discover who YOU are and be comfortable with it, but to stop comparing yourself to who other people are and by so be yourself.
Must of us do this every day and sometimes we don’t even realize it. We compare ourselves to others with our grades, hair color, body, friends, popularity, cars, houses, and so on. By doing so, we don’t realize that we are hurting ourselves and our self-esteem. This is destructive and we are not hurting those whom we are comparing ourselves; as said earlier, we are just hurting ourselves. If we compare everything we have and/or do with other people, we will most definitely not always “win” and this makes us feel less or not good enough. Because our mind is really powerful and can get you to think anything it wants, it can literally destroy your confidence and self-esteem because you feel that you are “not pretty enough” or “not popular enough.”
However, aren’t we all different? Imagine being exactly the same as everybody else… BORING. Of course, some people might be better at some things yet you are good at your own. Don’t ever forget that. Just because someone has a better body than you do, that’s not an excuse to self-destruct you mental image about who you are and even worse, think you are ugly, fat, etc. Though we try to avoid making comparisons, it is almost impossible. However, there are some good news. What if we would still compare ourselves yet instead of doing it to someone else we would keep the comparison within.
Compare yourself to yourself.
Yes, you heard me. This is a much healthier form of comparison because believe it or not, it will help you become a better person in the inside and out. Compare yourself to the person you were yesterday. How much have you grown? Have you reached your goals? How has your life improved? Have you made an important decision that has shaped you into who you are? Has any negative attitude that you had changed to a positive one?
I really hope this helped you realize how comparison yourself to yourself is much healthier and better than doing so with other people. Not only does it not tear us down, put pushes us to be better in every aspect of life.